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Friday, January 24, 2025

HOW A PARENT'S AFFECTION SHAPES A CHILD'S HAPPINESS FOR LIFE.

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We all live busy, stressful lives and have endless concerns as parents, but it is clear that one of the most important things we need to do is to stop and give our kids a big loving squeeze.

Research over the past decade highlights the link between affection in childhood and health and happiness in the future.

Science supports the idea that warmth and affection expressed by parents to their children results in life-long positive outcomes for those children,according to Child Trends, the leading nonprofit research organization in the United States focused on improving the lives and prospects of children, youth, and their families.

Higher self esteem, improved academic performance, better parent-child communication, and fewer psychological and behavior problems have been linked to this type of affection.

On the other hand, children who do not have affectionate parents tend to have lower self esteem and to feel more alienated, hostile, aggressive, and antisocial.

There have been a number of recent studies that highlight the relationship between parental affection and children’s happiness and success.

In 2010, researchers at Duke University Medical School found that babies with very affectionate and attentive mothers grow up to be happier, more resilient, and less anxious adults. The study involved approximately 500 people who were followed from when they were infants until they were in their 30s.

When the babies were eight months old, psychologists observed their mothers’ interactions with them as they took several developmental tests. The psychologists rated the mother’s affection and attention level on a five-point scale, ranging from “negative” to “extravagant.” Nearly 10% of the mothers showed low levels of affection, 85 percent demonstrated a normal amount of affection, and about six percent showed high levels of affection.

Then 30 years later, those same individuals were interviewed about their emotional health. The adults whose mothers showed “extravagant” or “caressing” affection were much less likely than the others to feel stressed and anxious.

They were also less likely to report hostility, distressing social interactions, and psychosomatic symptoms.

The researchers involved in this study concluded that the hormone oxytocin may be responsible for this effect.

Oxytocin is a chemical in the brain released during times when a person feels love and connection. It has been shown to help parents bond with their children, adding a sense of trust and support between them. This bond most likely helps our brain produce and use oxytocin, causing a child to feel more positive emotions.

Next, a 2013 study from UCLA found that unconditional love and affection from a parent can make children emotionally happier and less anxious. This happens because their brain actually changes as a result of the affection.

On the other hand, the negative impact of childhood abuse and lack of affectionimpacts children both mentally and physically. This can lead to all kinds of health and emotional problems throughout their lives. What’s really fascinating is that scientists think parental affection can actually protect individuals against the harmful effects of childhood stress.

Then in 2015, a study out of the University of Notre Dame showed that children who receive affection from their parents were happier as adults. More than 600 adults were surveyed about how they were raised, including how much physical affection they had.

The adults who reported receiving more affection in childhood displayed less depression and anxiety and were more compassionate overall. Those who reported less affection struggled with mental health, tended to be more upset in social situations, and were less able to relate to other people’s perspectives.

Researchers have also studied the benefits of skin-to-skin contact for infants.

This special interaction between mother and baby, in particular, helps calm babies so they cry less and sleep more. It has also been shown to boost brain development. According to an article in Scientific American, children who lived in a deprived environment like an orphanage had higher levels of the stress hormone cortisol than those who lived with their parents. Scientists believe that the lack of physical contact in the orphanages is a major factor in these physical changes.

Finally, numerous studies on the effects of massage show the positive benefits it offers to reduce anxiety in children. Massage is also a good way for parents to connect to their children, both physically and emotionally. Starting in infancy, a parent can begin to massage their child, which can create a strong bond. Studies have shown children and adults who receive massage experience less anxiety during academic stress, hospital stays, and other stressful events.

So, how can you bring more affection into your family’s day?

1. From the moment you bring your baby home from the hospital, be sure to hold, touch, and rock them in your arms.

Spend many precious moments caressing your baby so that their skin can touch your skin.

2. As they get older, be playful.

Do fun activities like dancing together or creating silly games like pretending to be a hugging or kissing monster.

3. Set a reminder to make sure hugging is part of your daily routine.

In the recent Trolls movie, the trolls wore watches with alarm clocks that would go off every hour for hug time. If that’s what it takes, then set yourself an alarm.Or make sure to give your kids a hug during certain times of the day, such as before they leave for school, when they get home from school, and before bedtime.

As you talk to them about what they did wrong, put your hand on their shoulder and give them a hug at the end of the conversation to ensure them that, even if you are not pleased with their behavior, you still love them.

4. Use affection while disciplining your child.

If your children hit their sister or brother, hug them and explain how hugging feels better than hitting.

Finally, be careful not to go overboard and smother your kids. Respect their individual comfort level, and be aware that this will change as they go through different stages. -mother.ly

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Good intention but how would PAS Youth mediate in Harith Iskander’s “ham sap kopi” controversy?

 

ONE really wonders if PAS Youth’s dakwah approach will ever work on Malaysia’s world acclaimed stand-up comedian Harith Iskander who courted controversy recently with his online “ham sap kopi” gig.

This may be a long shot but it could easily be imagined that the Islamist party’s wing harbours intention to school the 58-year-old “Malaysia’s godfather of stand-up comedy” by ultimately leading him to the deemed spiritual path of righteousness ala-PAS.

“Since brother Harith’s (Facebook) post continues to invite polemics and there haven’t been any calming and harmonising follow-up posts, PAS Youth sees the need to understand the basis of this issue raised by Muslims in Malaysia,” its chief Afnan Hamimi Taib Azamudden mooted the idea in a FB post.

“Therefore, PAS Youth is very excited to meet, hear opinions and exchange thoughts if brother Harith is willing to meet and discuss this matter.

“Furthermore, Harith is not a small name in the country. He once won first place in the “Funniest Person in the World” competition organised by The Laugh Factory in 2016. Therefore, this meeting session will definitely result in a mature and interesting discussion for joint learning.”

Whether Harith who is of Malay-Scottish blood would be receptive of PAS Youth’s invitation would first and foremost rest on the likelihood of him being summoned for police interrogation given that three police reports have been lodged against him to-date in Johor over allegations of making insensitive comments on Islam.

Johor police chief Comm Datuk M. Kumar said the reports against the local celebrity and a Facebook user were lodged in the Iskandar Puteri, Johor Baru North and Kluang districts.

Comm Kumar also said the post was then commented on by Facebook user Cecelia Yap Song KL.

“The user left a comment that read ‘all names with Mohammad got to be renamed then’ in a post made by Harith on his Facebook,” he added.

The case was being investigated under Section 298 of the Penal Code and Section 505(c) of the same Act and Section 233 of the Communications and Multimedia Act 1998.

The latest is on JAKIM (the Malaysian Islamic Development Department) having summoned Harith to obtain details regarding allegations of him making insensitive comments about Islam after admitting that it has lodged a police report against the comedian.

According to its director-general Datuk Dr Sirajuddin Suhaimee, JAKIM was also working with the Malaysian Communications and Multimedia Commission (MCMC) on the matter.

“All parties are asked to remain calm and leave it to the authorities to conduct an investigation,” he pointed out in a media statement.

“We (JAKIM) will never compromise and will take action if it is something that ridicules Islamic teachings and offends the sensitivities of Muslims. It is hoped that all parties can practise respect and tolerance in life,” – Focus Malaysia

Opposition faction mocks Nga Kor Ming: You ain’t a lion but only a “8481” in disguise

 

If words alone are insufficient to paint the desired picture these days, one can always turn to artificial intelligence (AI) for assistance.

Such is the case as some tech-savvy Perikatan Nasional (PN) backers have leveraged AI to ridicule DAP vice-chairman Nga Kor Ming who recently passed the remark that “a lion doesn’t argue with a fly” to convey why he will not engage in arguments with UMNO Youth chief Datuk Dr Muhamad Akmal Saleh.

“He holds a different position from me, so we won’t argue,” Nga had told China Press on being “attacked” by Akmal.

This is in relation to the controversy surrounding “ham & cheese” sandwich sold at a KK Concept Store in Universiti Malaya which sparked public outcry due to the display of the Malaysian halal logo on its packaging.

In retaliation to the analogy by Nga who is also the Housing and Local Government Minister, Akmal has retaliated with a picture of a pig with a mane of hair around its neck to the applause of his fanbase judged from the 10K likes, 1.7K comments and 630 shares garnered by his Facebook post.

Nga had said there was no need for the incident to be turned into an issue as it referred to processed meat, hence there are also turkey ham and chicken ham in the marketplace. As such, he hit out that “to make an issue out of it simply shows who is the real idiot”.

Akmal subsequently challenged Nga should look up the definition of “ham” under the Oxford Learner’s Dictionary which showed it referred to pork. The Merlimau state assemblyman further stressed the need for non-pork ham to carry the meat of the animal used before the word “ham”.

The polemic was capitalised by opposition-slant Syarul Ema Rena Abu Samah a.k.a. Ratu Naga who shared some AI wonders to depict “DAPig (her favourite label for DAP) masquerading as a lion”.

Despite his stance of not wanting to engage Akmal, Nga has nevertheless warned that DAP would not remain silent.

“For every statement made by Akmal, the DAP Socialist Youth (DAPSY) will respond ten-fold. It’s not just the new head of the youth wing who responds but even the publicity secretary, who is constantly issuing statements,” he asserted in his China Press interview.

“So, we are not silent. We’re simply responding proportionally to the situation.” – Focus Malaysia

Musa Aman freed under your watch, Fahmi Reza reminds PAS Youth

 


Activist Fahmi Reza, who ruffled feathers with his caricatures of newly appointed Sabah governor Musa Aman, has mocked PAS Youth for wanting to participate in tomorrow’s anti-graft rally in Kuala Lumpur.

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He pointed out that Musa was acquitted and discharged of all 46 criminal charges linked to timber concessions contracts in the state in June 2020 under the Perikatan Nasional government.

The former chief minister walked free after the prosecution withdrew all the corruption and money-laundering charges against him.

“PAS Youth wants to come in droves for the protest organised by students. 

“PAS Youth thinks the people have forgotten that when they were the government, they freed Musa,” he said in a social media post.

Sabah governor Musa Aman

Fahmi is being investigated under Section 4(1) of the Sedition Act, Section 233 of the Communications and Multimedia Act (CMA), and Section 504 of the Penal Code over the caricatures.

The Native Court of Keningau is also demanding compensation from the graphic artist.

Yesterday, the anti-graft rally secretariat welcomed the support of PAS and Bersatu Youth wings for the gathering but cautioned them against politicising the event.

“We welcome PAS and Bersatu Youth wings’ support as the anti-corruption rally goes beyond party politics or ideology.

“However, be warned not to bring any paraphernalia representing your party on Jan 25. This rally belongs to the people, not to be ridden by any political parties,” it said. - Mkini