Obedient Rohaya gets a mauling for sex tips

A ridiculous suggestion by Dr Rohaya Mohamad of the Obedient Wives Club has got women in Sarawak all riled up.

KUCHING: Sarawakian women have come out to slam the Obedient Wives Club (OWC) for offering to give women sex lessons to help them keep their husbands.

They described OWC vice-president Dr Rohaya Mohamad’s offer to teach as degrading to both men and women.

Speaking on their behalf, former teacher Voon Shiak Ni said Rohaya should apologise for “making such public statements”.

“She should apologise to all men and women of this country for making public such an embarrassing statement.

“Rohaya should do a bit of research before making public statements and if she is serious about reducing family problems.

“She should look into the 70% which constitutes the bulk of marriage failures and not about training first-class prostitutes to keep a marriage.

“A research in Canada even showed that the new causes of marriage failures in the 21st century is Facebook,” she said.

Voon, who is also PKR national vice-president, was referring to Rohaya’s controversial statement that a husband who is kept happy in the bedroom would have no reason to seek out prostitutes or stray from marriage.

According to Rohaya, “it is important to be good sexual workers so that the husbands do not go to prostitutes”.

The OWC had also offered sex lessons to help wives “serve their husbands better than a first-class prostitute”.

Advocating abuse

Said Voon: “We wish to ask Rohaya whether her statement is supported by facts and statistics. Is that her personal opinion?”

Voon pointed out a research which showed that about 25% to 30% of failed marriages were attributed to affairs or third parties.

Voon reminded Rohaya not to take her personal views and ideals and impose them on others.

“Let me reming Rohaya that she is advocating the enslavement of women by their husbands. What she has advocated actually is akin to advocating abuse and violence against women.

“A marriage means much more than sex and Rohaya is reducing men to sex animals and the women being born as just prostitutes.

“Marriage is viewed more as a partnership and a marriage is akin to a contract between two people and it takes both parties to do their part to make the contract work well,” she said.

Voon added that both husbands and wives played a part in holding the institution of a marriage together.

“There is no justification to impose on the wife the burden to make a marriage work and a failed marriage is usually not the fault of one spouse,” she said.

Degrading comment

Voon, who is a now lawyer, said that from the number of divorce cases which she personally handled, sex was not an issue that came up.

“The issues are usually about finance and lack of responsibility on the part of spouse,” she added.

Meanwhile, Sarawak PKR women chief, Nurhanim Mokhsen, who was also present, said “as a wife I’m insulted”.

“This club is degrading to a housewife like me. Personally I don’t agree. Why must there be an obedient club?

“Obedience itself shows that it is degrading to the wife. In a marriage a husband and wife have equal rights.

“If you must form one, why cannot men also form a ‘loyal husbands club’?” she said, pointing out that she is not condoning the husbands to go out and commit adultery.