ABILITY TO RISE UP!

 

It does not matter how far you might rise. At some point, you are bound to stumble. Each one of us experiences a few “stumbles” in our life. Some of us have the mental scars to show for it, too. Maybe you just got fired from your job and do not know how to start over. Or maybe you are trying with all your might to find a new one without any luck.

Sometimes we work hard for the things we truly believe in, only for life to not go according to our plans. In these moments, you might feel like throwing in the towel. Or that it is just not worth the heartache to go after your dreams.  These feelings of pain and doubt are normal, but they should not stop you. In fact, when you realize you have hit rock bottom, there is only one way to go, and that is up. The process may be a difficult one and may even take away all your energy, but with a strategy and will-power, it can surely be done.

Here are some of the best steps you can take to achieve your definition of success after life knocks you down:

1. Take time to feel your pain.

When you have hit the ground on all fours, you may feel the need to deny your situation or take it for granted. Do not! Instead, allow yourself to be vulnerable to the way you feel. If you feel angry for being fired, inadequate for a failed business or depressed that your spouse left you, accept what you feel.  Taking time to feel your emotions and grieving your situation is a good start to refocusing yourself for what is to come. You cannot rise from a fall by avoiding the fact that you fell and actually got hurt. If you do so, the pain will pile up and weigh you down at a later time. So, grieve, cry if you feel the tears and scream at the top of your lungs if it helps you feel better. And it will.

2. Accept what you cannot change.

This is like grieving, but more about understanding that what is happened cannot be undone. If your business failed and you are deep in debt, you cannot change that fact. Not in a day, at least, and definitely not by numbing or ignoring the situation you are in. If your spouse walked away from you and your kids and it hurts, it might hurt for a long time. But you cannot change any of it.  So, try to accept it and start thinking of what comes next. This comes after you have stopped screaming. This is just part of the healing process, and the sooner you are able to accept and understand what you cannot change, the better.

3. Be kind and forgive yourself. 

When life knocks you down, it is normal to feel guilty, blame yourself and even add self-hate to that pile. However, at the end of the day, you must learn to forgive yourself and find a door within the darkness. Think about all the people that have been in your situation and successfully lived through it. What did they do to recover? Do your research and read about it. The truth is, in the midst of all your troubles and depression, someone else has been in your shoes. Someone else has felt what you are feeling now.

4. Evaluate your options and redefine your goals. 

Once you have forgiven yourself and are ready for the next move, it is time to evaluate your options. Ask yourself what can be done differently by assessing what went wrong. If you made mistakes, write each one of them down to learn from your behaviour. If it was something you did not do, think about how you will change things up next time around. And if you did not make a mistake and yet you still failed, focus on the future. There is probably an aspect from your experience you can learn from. As you evaluate, also think about your larger vision. What is it that you want to achieve and when do you want to achieve it? Remember that one of the daily habits of successful people is goal setting. You, too, should write down your long-term goals and break them down into smaller daily goals.

5. Map out a plan for your goals. 

A goal without a plan is just a wish. This is a great reminder that just having a goal is not enough. You can write it down, break it down into as many small daily goals as you want, but if you do not have an action plan to execute it, all will be in vain. So, make plans around your goal. If your goal is to heal from a breakup and one of your smaller goals is to read inspirational books, make plans to buy the book. Even this plan could include smaller tasks, like identifying the right book by searching online or asking for referrals.

Make similar plans depending on your unique problem. If your goal is to get investors for your startup idea, make plans to attend events and approach potential investors. Then make sure you actually follow through on the things you write down.

Over time, it gets easier to rise up and follow through. You would not have to exert as much will because you will have formed a set of habits day in and day out. You will have a purpose. Your plans and goals are that purpose. They give you a reason to wake up every morning.

If at any point you feel like you want to pull back into depression, go back to the point 3 above, where you learn to forgive yourself. Listening to music, sharing your experiences with people and reading books can help to avoid setbacks.

But most importantly, remember to not give up. You have not failed until you quit, so keep at it.

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