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Monday, November 30, 2020

FIVE CRUCIAL CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES

 


Adversity

Some research suggests that negative experiences early in life can hinder our development of purpose, even decades later. Psychologist Patrick Hill and his colleagues studied over 3,800 adults aged 20 years to 75 years. They reported on any early childhood adversity they had experienced - including experiences of emotional abuse, physical abuse, socioeconomic disadvantage, family structure disadvantage (for example, parents divorcing or dying), and health disadvantage (for example, poor early physical or emotional health) - as well as their sense of purpose as adults. Hill and his colleagues found that people who recalled greater adversity in childhood - in particular, greater health disadvantage - had a decreased sense of purpose. For some people, though, hard times in childhood end up inspiring them to pursue a particular calling, like caring for kids or eliminating poverty. Some individuals may gain greater clarity on their life direction upon reflection on these adverse events.

Conflict

Even conflict in relationships between parents and children could affect their sense of purpose as they grow older. Another recent study by Hill and his colleagues involved over one thousand children between six and twelve years old, and their mothers and fathers. The researchers followed the families until the children reached their twenties. They were working-class families who lived in the Pacific Northwest of the United States. When they were in elementary school, the children - as well as their mothers and fathers - completed questionnaires about how much conflict, anger, and fun they had in their parent-child relationship. As early adults, the children also completed questionnaires to measure their purpose, life satisfaction, and stress.

The results? Children who had more early conflict with their mothers - not their parents - had a decreased sense of purpose in early adulthood regardless of how stressed and satisfied with life they were. Frequent conflict saps the child’s energy and enthusiasm, and in turn, affects the likelihood to live an active, engaged lifestyle, which has been suggested as a primary pathway for individuals to make their lives purposeful.

Attachment and separation-individuation

An earlier study by Hill and his colleagues explored how a different aspect of the parent-child relationship could be important to purpose. They measured two qualities: parental attachment and separation-individuation. Parental attachment refers to the bond between a child and their primary caregivers that depends on their warmth and responsiveness, and it was measured with statements like “I usually discuss my problems and concerns with [my mother or father].” Separation-individuation is an identity development process in which an independent, mature sense of self emerges during adolescence and young adulthood. Problems with the separation-individuation process were measured with statements like “I need other people around me to not feel empty.”

Over 500 undergraduate students at a Canadian university, ages 17-30, filled out online surveys about their relationship with their parents, as well as their sense of purpose. Overall, the study found that students who had a higher sense of purpose tended to have more secure attachments to their parents and fewer problems with the separation-individuation process. In turn, they also had a greater sense of mastery and control - they thought they were the authors of their own future.

Nature

Other positive experiences in childhood may set up children for purpose later in life - including early memories of nature’s beauty.

Researchers, Riichiro Ishida and Masahiko Okada, recruited nearly 70 college students in Japan who were between 18 and 35 years old. Participants completed questionnaires about their purpose and their early life and youth experiences, including nature-related questions like “Do you remember having feelings that were associated with the beauty of nature?”

The researchers found that more purposeful students tended to have stronger memories of the beauty of nature during early childhood and early adolescence..

Exposure to diverse activities

Finally, not only do early childhood experiences seem to affect whether children develop purpose at all as they get older, those experiences may also influence what kind of purpose they gravitate toward.

Nine 12- to 23-year-old who had an exceptional sense of purpose participated in a study by Kendall Cotton Bronk. Her team interviewed them for three hours on three occasions over five years. 

According to the exemplars, they would not have discovered noble purposes in the areas they did, had they not been involved in those areas early on, often as children. As parents, teachers, and other adults interested in fostering noble purpose among youth, then, it is important to expose young people to a wide variety of activities.

For example, one 18-year-old in the study shared that she first became interested in cancer research at the age of five after an experience with the American Cancer Society, when she volunteered for a fundraising event selling daffodils at the mall. Another 18-year-old in the study whose purpose was related to a commitment to create and promote jazz music shared, “I got into music when I was nine because of my next-door neighbour . . . he had a piano and he taught me how to play Pink Panther and Greensleeves and stuff like that.”

Taken together, all these findings suggest that there are a multitude of early childhood experiences that may shape how adolescents and adults develop a sense of purpose. Early personal resources like good health, strong social connections, and positive engagement in activities and the natural world tend to support children to develop meaningful life goals. Parents can help their children start exploring pathways to purpose early on to help avoid the post-college void of purpose that many young people are experiencing today.

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